dear melissa,
you are incredible. i wish i could go back and right the wrongs that i felt inside so that the outside was better.
- u don't need anyone to make u feel whole. u will chase this feeling for the next ten years and will be disappointed every time. the only time that u will feel whole is when u find ur most confident self.
- read. study. take advantage of the free resources around you. challenge. just because you are scared does not mean that you are wrong. you are scared because you have not been taught to stand up for yourself / you are not practiced in standing your ground. do not let people intimidate you into believing in what they believe.
- racists are out there. they are among who you thought were "good people" racism doesn't live on a binary of "good" and "evil" stand your ground and observe. choose your friends wisely. you might be your only friend.
- treat yourself with kindness. treat yourself with kindness. treat yourself with CARE + KINDNESS.
- do not destroy the body you possess in order to build a body that you don't have. put down your hair straightener. slather yourself in coconut and olive oil. you are a goddess.
- you do not need to be white to be beautiful. that is a colonized and eurocentric idea of beauty that was established in order to control black and brown people. it still controls us. say this daily in the mirror and kiss yourself and your skin.
- have sex, damn. be safe. but realize that your purity is not real, it's another construct of a patriarchal society trying to control you. it is your religion trying to control you.
- get to know your family. maybe then it wouldn't be a drag getting to know them.
- push on your driver's license.
- wear whatever you want. this is your body.
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sweet comments.